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Imposter Syndrome
Imposter can be a saboteur that rides the waves of our unconscious mind. We keep it mostly in our subconscious mind because there is deep shame attached to it and shame is a pain we prefer not to feel too deeply. Brene Brown says that, “ shame can’t survive the light of sharing its pain with another” and I believe that to be true. When I talk about Imposter Syndrome in group settings there is always a brave few that say, “Oh ya, I hate feeling like I don’t belong where I’m at”. I continue to talk about Imposter syndrome because in sharing it I am taking Brown’s advice and shining a light upon it, so that we can start to recognize that we are not alone in our feeling that we don’t belong. Once you recognize that Imposter Syndrome isn’t unique to you and that perhaps everyone has it, then you start to feel less alone and it starts to normalize. It’s this awareness that to have imposter syndrome is to belong to the human condition, that turns down the volume of the burden you carry. Then you start to explore it and even ask questions. Where did this come from, why do I feel this way. What is it trying to tell me and can I get rid of it?
New Beginnings, Resistance is Futile.
As much as we all love new beginnings in the movies, the reality is that they are usually a pain in the ass. There is no right time for your square one event but change is coming yet again and so is the resistance. My teacher Martha Beck, loves the life cycle metaphor of the butterfly to describe each stage of the life cycle. Square one is the caterpillar. Square two is the cocoon, Square three emergence from the cocoon and square 4 is the butterfly in all of her glory. Yes, all butterflies are female, just kidding. Back to the caterpillar, or square one, the caterpillar. Caterpillar’s are the earth bound incarnation of the butterfly’s life cycle. It’s basically crawling and square one is back to crawling and slowing down until we learn how to embody the change. Think of the new business that you’ve been building. It’s such a celebration when you first launch but now you have months and perhaps years of learning the ropes of your new business and it feels like you are crawling where before you use to fly. Don’t worry you will get back on track but it will take time.
The Power of A Gratitude Practice
Can you be grateful for the wrong things? This is a tricky one. Like so many things the answer is Yes and not really. I think being grateful is a positive emotion. When you step into gratitude for anything it immediately shifts your perspective and raises your mood. I...
